As a mental health therapist, I often asked my clients about their value system. What mattered to them? How did these key beliefs play out in their choices and behavior? For many of my clients, our conversations around values was the first time they had discussed them in detail, so we started with questions to try to link choices and behaviors to their values. I wanted them to determine if they were living in a way that was compatible with what they believed.

Without being fully aware of what they found important, my clients often found themselves making choices or behaving in ways that was not in harmony with what truly mattered to them. They’re not alone. Most of us can experience a disconnect from our most cherished values. The less we understand about our personal value system, the easier it is to be manipulated by others or make choices that are contrary to what matters to us. If we go against our own value system long enough, it can lead to diminished mental, emotional, and spiritual health. 

After working with several clients on helping them understand their personal values, I created a system to encourage learning about values. My goal in creating this system is to help you become deeply rooted in your own values while also being open to change that can come with growth.

When we know what our core values are, we’re better able to understand our true identity. We know how and when to compromise and what is non-negotiable. We grow in confidence. I believe that when we understand and act in a way that’s in line with our values, we’re more comfortable in our own skin. We’re more at peace.